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Grab him by the nuts

June 2018 @ 11:00 am - 2:00 pm

How forward is too forward? Does it matter where you are? How do you treat someone who goes “too far” with their advances?

On Saturday 30 June April 2018 a group of us got together for our Summer BBQ Event from 11am – 1pm at the Ilume Pool. Jim Walker hosted the discussion, and the topic was: Consent and Harassment in the LGBT community. We talked about different types of forwardness in different LGBT spaces, how forward is “too forward”, and how we choose to negotiate social situations where someone is making us uncomfortable.

We saw some familiar faces, and a lot of new ones as well. To help make it easier for people to talk about this sensitive–and for some people very uncomfortable–topic, we broke out into small groups where individuals with different backgrounds and from different perspectives could share their own feelings and experiences in a safe setting. You can see some pictures and short video clips from the event below.

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Community Thoughts

(NOTE: Posting answers here is not an endorsement of those answers. Every answer is somebody’s perspective, from some point in their own personal journey. All we can strive to do is understand where their perspective lies in relation to our own.)

Does your level of comfort with a stranger touching you or saying certain things depend on who is doing it?
I feel like the way they do it matters more than who the person is. If someone is persistent and aggressive it might bother me no matter who it is coming from. On the other hand I know I could have unconscious biases.
How do you (or how would you) handle being in situations where you feel someone is being inappropriately forward or sexually aggressive?
I would ask them politely to back off. Then if they didn’t, I might tell them to fuck off…..and if they did not leave me alone, then I would simply leave the location. This has happened to me many times, so I am speaking from my own history.

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June 2018
11:00 am - 2:00 pm
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4123 Cedar Springs Rd
Dallas, TX 75219 United States


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2 Replies to “Grab him by the nuts”

  1. The event was v very informative. It was a pleasure to meet the Cocktails and Conversation with WiL gang.

    1. We appreciate your support and hope you will join us again Sat, July 20th for cocktails and conversation 1:30 to 3:30 pm.

      4123 Cedar Springs Road
      Dallas TX, 75219

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